What does quality time look like for you and your partner? It could mean snuggling up on the couch with a good movie and some popcorn or going two-stepping. Whatever that special time looks like in your relationship, it needs to happen. If you ignore the thing that brings you together, then you are setting yourself up to be apart. Read that again.
I have spoken on stages about date night and what that means for couples. Sometimes couples get caught up in the cost of a date night. What a date night means is that you take the time to spend at least an hour together without having outside distractions. That quality time is what keeps your love and intimacy alive.
I often tell couples that date night is not the time to have discussions related to money, kids or sex. This is the time when the two of you are totally free and can reconnect at least once a week. The chores will still be there. The kids will still need stuff from you. None of those things is as important as the relationship between you and your partner.
There is an old adage: If mom isn’t happy then nobody’s happy. There is truth in this statement. If one or both of you are so overwhelmed with responsibilities and you do not take time for each other then one or both of you will end up unhappy. Remember that when the kids grow up, there will still be the two of you. Remember that eventually your job will end. Keep your love alive and you won’t wake up one day and say….Who are you and what are you doing in my house?
Many Blessings!
Kari Petruch
Master Relationship Coach
