So jumping to conclusions involves interpreting a situation with little or no evidence. Arguments between couples may start with this very problem. How often do we think that we hear or see something and misinterpret what we saw or heard? For most of us humans, this is very common. When strong emotions are involved, these misinterpretations can look like jumping to conclusions. An example of this might be: He doesn’t like the dress I am wearing so I won’t wear dresses anymore. This, of course, is a gross exaggeration but you get the picture.
So how do we avoid this? By using better listening skills and losing the fear of asking for clarification. Many times we can clear up a misunderstanding just by hearing the statement one more time or looking again at what we thought we saw. Gathering correct information is a key component of good communication. How do you jump to conclusions?
In your relationship, using good listening skills will help with trust and intimacy. When your partner says something that is important to you, it is important that you fully understand. Life can get in the way of good listening. If the kids are talking to you all at once and your partner asks you to do something for them, you are likely not able to listen well. When there is something important to say or to ask, make sure that you have your partner’s full attention. If you do not, you can expect that your partner either did not hear you or was not listening. Practice making sure that you have your partner’s full attention. My hope is that you will be pleasantly surprised!
Many Blessings!
Kari Petruch
Master Relationship Coach
