Hello my friends!
There are some beliefs that happen in childhood and there are some beliefs that we adopt. During teenage years, so many youth believe that if they do not see or talk to each other every day that their love will die. That is not the truth. The best love is when each of you have your lives. Some of you reading this are already married or in a committed relationship. The following statement may or may not apply to you and your relationship.
We should be seeing each other every night.
If you are living with your partner then mostly this happens. There are times when you may travel alone. If you are living separately from your partner or you are in a serious dating relationship, then you must know this truism.
Seeing each other every night is not necessary and is unhealthy.
Time is so important in developing a romantic relationship. It is not about how much time you spend together but the quality of that time. Time gives incredible anticipation. Time gives the two of you space to really get to know each other and develop that physical attraction into real love. Time gives the two of you the opportunity to fully embrace each other without pressure.
Some have said that becoming friends before engaging in a serious relationship is important. I do not necessarily agree with that statement…although it couldn’t hurt. In this fast paced world of instant gratification, many have forgotten about the importance of courting and respect for one another. If you are not in a serious relationship at this time, consider this.
The giving of your bodies to one another is a precious intimate gift. I propose to you that sex is not just sex for most women. Hold onto that precious gift until you are certain that the feelings from the other person are reciprocated. You are worth the respect for yourself to wait and develop that relationship into that meaningful culmination. Making love is about intimacy. Would you share your toothbrush with a stranger? Would you let a stranger sleep in your home? Then it stands to reason that letting a stranger into your bed is just as silly. Honor yourself and take the time to know the person you are spending your romantic time with. Just sayin’.
Many Blessings!
Kari Petruch
Master Relationship Coach