There are some young beliefs that you may have developed at a young age. A small list can be found on Page 31 of my book, Get Out of the Box and Into Play. I am beginning a small series to address these beliefs and when this series is over, we will be talking about the six stages of a serious relationship. My hope is that you find these blogs informative, inspiring and transformational. So….let’s go!
The first of these beliefs that I have listed is as follows:
People who love each other get married.
I will tell you right here and now that people who love each other do not have to get married. The choice is between you and your partner. There is a couple that I know that stayed together in love for forty years. They each had their own work lives, insurance and created a loving home together. For this couple, the idea of marriage was too much. Their relationship flourished with the always open possibility that they could walk away any time that they chose. Both of them had seen so much damage from friends who had divorce lawyers. Their friends tore each other apart over things that they felt were important. Their friends spent thousands of dollars to hire lawyers to argue for them. This is something that they did not want for their relationship.
People who love each other do not have to get married.
Marriage is a choice…not an obligation. You have the power to choose. It is my choice to marry but that does not mean that this needs to be your choice. You as a couple make your decisions about what you want your relationship to be. What is important is that you love each other and grow together as a couple.
Master Relationship Coach